I just dropped Wilson off at daycare. Their were 3 other blonde boy's his size there. Of course, they are older but he still managed to fit right in. He walked over to them and started playing. (With a train set, of course.)
Mary's day, I am sure, will have some challenging moments. I know. I used to work in a toddler room and it was always a little rough on the new kids. Wilson will be eating at the table, which should be no problem. However, naptime should be interesting. She is going to have Wilson nap on the floor. He has never done that. Not only will he be on the floor he will be napping with out polar bear. I gave her a pacifier and reinforced that I do NOT plan on having him give it up anytime soon (she kinda hinted that we should start eliminating it soon a couple months ago). Wilson uses his paci at nap, bed time, and when he is super tired or very upset. It gives him comfort and I don't think there is anything wrong with that! I was a very oral kid. Sucking my thumb into the double digits of age. [Hey, I am not proud of that!] Chris was too. My feeling, is that a pacifier can be thrown away but a thumb, well... that is obvious.
I think that sometime people think that Wilson should be doing things that he is not developmentally ready for. (Like give up a pacifier.) I find that I have to remind people that Wilson is only a year and a half. (Heck, he just turned it.) He may look two but he is not developmentally (in language, cognition, emotions, or social skills) the same as a 2 year old. Six months is a big deal when your talking birth to three. If you think that the brain is 85% developed by the age of three it helps you put into perspective how much they are growing in such a short time period.
Okay. Back to the oral thing--- Wilson's pediatrician once said that better he get his oral fix now than need it with cigarettes later. Don't know how much truth there is to that statement, but it is worth thinking about. I have smoked in my life but have never been addicted to smoking. Is that because I got my oral fix earlier in life or because I have less addictive chemicals in my body or because I know who much damage it does to your body? I don't know.
What I do know is that I am glad I communicated my feelings with Mary. I explained to her why I feel the way I do and also supported her in her opinion to not have a pacifier. I agree that I don't want him to have it a three (maybe even by 2.5) but at 18 months there is no reason for me to force him to give it up. I left feeling understood and knowing that Mary will give him his pacifier if he needs it. And that is good.
When I left Wilson seemed very happy. He told me bye, gave me a wet kiss and went back to playing. God, I love that kid!!
4 comments:
I'm glad that you've got that all cleared up. Kind of drives me crazy that people are so willing to tell you when you should be doing this or that with your kid.
Jonathan didn't give his paci up at bed and nap until he turned 3. Then he got to trade all of them in for a new stuffed animal to sleep with instead. I agree with Angie, it drives me crazy too!
I'm just amazed that he just went in and said goodbye and was fine. Geeeeez...my kid is a FREAK and doesn't even want me to leave the room she's in. That is much worse than a paci, in my opinion! :)Nothing wrong with a pacifier! What is up with people?
I sucked my thumb until I was 9 and only stopped because I had teeth pulled and the dentist made me. And I never smoked, so there you go! :) Interesting theory!
I'm shocked that you could leave him so easily too! Salem would probably not have it...she still throws a fit every single day when I drop her off at the gym, and we've been going there for almost 2 years!!!!!!!!
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